got some hate mail from my blog today. like, you're obviously a terrible mother and a horrible friend and you enjoy mocking other people's suffering.
it pissed me off, for a lot of reasons.
but the biggest one...I think the biggest one isn't the obvious one.
When something sux, like sux really, really bad...I don't know how most people deal with it. But I know that *I* try to laugh about it. I try to make jokes. The fact that I make them doesn't mean that I don't understand the seriousness of the thing I'm trying to make fun of (therapists, post-partum depression, feelings of worthlessness, other stuff like that). It means that I'm trying to *laugh.*
I believe in laughter. I believe that people *need* to laugh.
But here's the rub...Every funny person at some point is going to accidentally offend someone. Maybe hurt the feelings of a dear friend without meaning to. Even when they're actively *trying* to be unoffensive. I know that I try to only make fun of myself, or my kids who can't read and thus won't get hurt by it. And yet...I offend people. At least I did today.
So I want to hear your thoughts.
Is it better to try and make people laugh and offend some people?
Or is it better to keep your jokes to yourself? Especially in somewhere like a blog that's visible to the entire world?
We need to laugh. But at what cost?